Well, we picked ourselves back up and decided we need to stop getting so upset about the utter lack of help (as well as compounding problems) of Agency and DSS and birth mom and so on.
The kids need stability -- so we need to stick with it.
So we developed our own analogy for foster care:
We crash-landed on a deserted island, somewhere, and the only survivors were us and these two young kids.
Cannibals visit the island occasionally, and usually cause strife. They sometimes seem to be helpful, but y'know, you can't rely on cannibals. They might suddenly try to eat you.
We have no idea when we'll be rescued, or whether the kids have family on the mainland.
So until that time, we just have to muddle along as best we can, on our own.
A case in point: Jacob and Sophia were sexually abused. We have no idea what special techniques/therapies/disciplinary methods/etc. we should use, in light of that. (We just found out last week....it's apparently why they were removed, but no one actually told us. Sigh.) The only in-person training offered by our agency was offered to us with less than 24 hours notice, and our babysitter wasn't available. (She's the only one "approved" by the agency so far.) So we couldn't go.
But there are tons of online trainings! Some cost money, some don't. I don't mind paying! I just asked the agency trainer, who had offered to find me online trainings, whether she could recommend any of the links I'd found.
Her response was, basically: don't talk to me, talk to this other person.
Other person doesn't respond to phone calls or emails.
So, you see? We're on a desert island.
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